Tuesday, October 30, 2018

A Tremendous Lack of Good Deeds

For the last seven years, Bug has been volunteering at a certain railroad museum not far from our home.   He had been hoping for a job there since he graduated college, but nothing ever came open.  There is never any money in the state coffers, but he pressed on, just in case.  He hasn't been working for pay for years, and owes tens of thousands in student loan debt, so it really would have been nice.

So about a month ago, I see something on the internets.  Did they tell him it was open?  No.  But it came through on one of his email lists so he saw it anyway.

They knew how excited he was.  They knew how hard he worked, he had been a state intern there before, there was no reason for him not to be the one they hired.  He knew their collections, their archives, there would have been no need to train him.  He even developed an accessions policy for their collections, which oddly they never had before.

He was interviewed by his supervisor, the museum director and a volunteer who is probably the head of volunteers, but not an employee.   Bug thought the interview went great!  But then.....This volunteer told him they were not going to play favorites.   When he told us later, my antenna went up.  I knew he wasn't getting the job.

Now, they do know he is autistic.  So to me, they have been lying the whole time.  They do not see him as "family."  They do not want someone who is autistic working for them.  They COULD have done a good deed - because this good deed would have satisfied the need they have for help for his supervisor..  The supervisor said that she did want to hire him - but then, that's probably a lie, too.  It's no skin off her teeth to say that, she loses nothing by lying to make him feel better.

It is HARD for autistic people to find work.  Statistics are something like 16.8% of people with ALL disabilities are working.  That means even fewer people with autism are working.  And that statistic does not say whether they are full- or part-time.  According to the Kennedy Krieger Institute, only 14% of people with autism are working, and most of those jobs are part-time.

There is another angle to this story.  A few months ago, I wrote to our local state senator.  I asked him, is it too much to expect a state entity which has been getting his efforts for free for so long to not pay him?  Because the state and the fed have forked out over $120,000 to pay for his college, and you would think that they would place a real value on their investment. I begged him to see what he could do. 

Less than two months later, the ad appeared online.

Does it seem to you that, gee, maybe that money came into the coffers on purpose somehow?  And that job was meant for Bug?  Ok, it might have been a bit fast for the government, but it's not like it was a job that paid a whole lot.  I'm sure it was the senator that did it.  It's too coincidental.

The museum people did not have enough loyalty in their souls, they had no intentions of doing a good deed for someone who was a faithful volunteer, who did his work right, who was so excited to have a job open there.  When all the time, they had no intentions of hiring someone with autism, period.  If they knew they weren't going to hire him, they should have told him up front.  That would have been a good deed.

To rub it in, they told him today that there is a Guide position coming up soon.  Well, Bug is not a teacher, and does not want to BE a museum guide.  Obviously they never even looked at his resume.  The first line on his resume is that he wants to work with collections.  Way back when he thought he wanted to BE a history teacher long ago, I told him not to.  There are too many lawsuits or even jail for those which things have occurred someone who might have touched someone inadvertently or looked at them the wrong way.  Many autistic people are not aware of how they say things or look at people, etc. It would be much too risky.

And why do they think he would want to come back there and watch someone get paid to do the job he did for seven years for free?

There are no good deeds any more.  Just none.  No one wants to give a person a break, that he was doing this job unpaid for SEVEN YEARS makes it even more disgusting when you know they hired someone else entirely.  Did they hate the job he did so much that they could not do one nice thing for someone who certainly deserved it?  God, people suck.

Yes, he has that on-call job I wrote about before (which he just got a call for).  It's just not a museum, and he is afraid that if he leaves the museum field, he will not get back in.  Think about this.  He's afraid to leave a non-paying volunteer "job" and watch the other person get paid and do the same things he is doing that very moment.

If you take your children to this museum, just know in advance that they really have no empathy for people with autism.  That might make you see them a bit differently, and maybe you'll reconsider.   Because one day people could do this to your autistic child.  Autistic people have No Friends in Pennsylvania. 

One last thing - the railroad across the street, that is the tourist attraction?  They aren't part of the museum operation. So feel free to give them your patronage without guilt.

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

My Township is a Piece of Work.

Canvassing is always kind of goofy.  When I was in the city, it could also be dangerous...hell, what am I saying, out here in the boonies it's no different!  Trump voters carrying shotguns....  My dad and I had one chase us once when we were looking at a wooded area, he was showing me where he got a deer, we were sitting in the middle of the road....

In any case, the average voting record for Dems in my township is something like 7% on a regular basis.  This tells me one of a few things.  Either all these records are wrong, or people here just are idiots or don't care.

So my Committee gives me papers.  Lists of inactive, infrequent voters.  Last year when I was working for a candidate, I had access to the voting dirt.  And I took good notes, and kept the records.  So this year, I have all those turfs to use - one of which has only 11 people who voted regularly out of several hundred.  I go to Google maps to see if this is a trailer park, apartment complex or what.  NO GOOGLE MAP ACCESS.   Sad and pathetic township.

But here's the thing.  So many of these inactives are probably dead or moved.  Who reports dead people to the election board?  I mean, I never heard of anyone doing that.  Although you would think that if someone moved, they would want to move their registration.....or do they just totally re-register?  You would think that the county would send the new registration in, I'm sure they ask for a SS number....it makes no sense.

This is how all those stupid rumors get started.   Maybe our 7% isn't really 7%, maybe it's 70% of all the Dems here vote, and we're just shit outta luck.

I'll know more later.....


Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Rantz and some Good News?

2017 was not a very good year for Moi.  Not because of Scrump.  Or not solely...  and I could not post this until now because of an official complaint which eventually went belly up.

As many of you know, Bug was in grad school.  In a state university in a dreary, dull town, which doesn't deserve naming, so I won't.  I think the greyness of the town has infected the brains of all who work there.  We had to remove him from the program before they ruined his reputation.

Have you ever known people who you thought had no sense or no empathy?  That is what Bug has encountered over and over at this "grad school."  Starting with a prof who denigrated him for not correcting the grammar of an ESL student (when he has a language disability of his own)...yeah, you read that right - and who also called him "ridiculous" in a comment, making fun of him in front of the other grad students.  Yeah, funny how they say autistic people have no empathy.  Who calls a student with autism "ridiculous"?  Who does that?  Talk about beating a puppy.

It all ended with Bug spiraling downhill, all of this treatment and the fallout putting him into panic mode, and then with my having to spend 10 days out there in order that he wouldn't totally melt down.  And then my paying rent for a semester in an apartment he could not get a subletter for.  This, because unbeknownst to me, most people leave that place in December, they run fast and far and never come back.

In my advocacy work, I have always told parents, do Not send your adult children with disabilities more than an hour away from home to college.   And Bug has actually done well away from home - he lived at college (with us not seeing him for weeks at a time) for undergrad, he lived in DC and did an internship at the Smithsonian, taking the Metro every day and pretty much doing *everything himself from food shopping to paying the rent.  So to think that he would have done well at grad school away from the home area is not a far reach.

Until you are face to face with such institutional incompetence and indifference, you have no idea what can happen.  People who are so scared of imaginary lawsuits that they cannot do the right thing - which of course would help avoid these imaginary lawsuits, but take an extra 5 calories of effort - can ruin a person's life just in their stupidity.

So our theory from now on has to be, If an asshole can fcuk things up for you, they will.  Because they really don't give a shit about anything except covering their asses.

There finally was some good news, after all this - actually, after 9 months of looking, interviews, massive amount of resumes and applications both via home and OVR, he was finally hired.  Not exactly in what he wanted, but it will do for a start.  We think.  Except that it's on-call - so he's not really working, yet.  But there is a future in it if he decides he likes it.  If they ever call him in.... Yes, we have read the Reddit and seen how many young people don't have anything.  Then again, he hasn't had a paycheck yet, either....kinda hard to pay the student loans on-call....  We're just thankful that we could spin things so that his reputation wasn't totally ruined by the previously mentioned assholes.

SMH.

Monday, May 28, 2018

Get off Thine Hinies

I have played with a local orchestra for over 30 years.  The people who run this group are mostly in their 70s and 80s, even though the bulk of the orchestra is under the age of 50.

None of the younger people seem to have an interest in helping.  "The Elderly" (and me, and a stray other over 60 or two) arrive to rehearsals 45 minutes early to physically set up chairs, stands and heavy equipment every week.  They are the bulk of the Board members.  They are the ones who run all the projects, find places to donate or advertise, etc. etc. etc.

So it kinda pisses me off.  I have asked the others to get involved, they don't.  They have asked the others to help, they don't.  It's like they just want to come, and not worry about anything other than playing.  While that would be nice, if our group went belly up, these lazy shits wouldn't have any other place to play.  Getting an orchestra spot (at least for winds, brass and percussion) is something we all hold onto like grim death.

This weekend we have a huge yard sale, which they have done for longer than I have been here.  The proceeds, usually several thousand dollars, rent or purchase music for us during the season.   I drive an hour several times over 6-8 weeks to help The Elderly price all the goods, which another member keeps in their home until the sale, and then help them the day of the sale.  It is no small feat.  I am bringing Bug to help them carry everything, we are talking furniture, and one of the women said she would bring her 80+ yo husband to help him with it.  OMG. 

I don't know how to get the younger people involved.  They don't donate money or their time (outside of playing time), there seems to be no empathy for the burden they put on the older members of the orchestra.  I don't understand it. 

I'm sure it's similar to the way young people don't vote or take part in anything any more.  I am also glad that I was never like that.  Never thought I was the odd one, but maybe I was.  Does life have to smack young people in the head before they understand the value of helping? 

Get the fuck off your asses, kiddies, or you will miss all the valuable and rewarding things in life.

Sunday, May 20, 2018

Breakage

So, Fetterman won the primary here in PA.  We're happy.  Others, not so much.  Tough.

Needed a break, so I have been staying away from political crap for the last month, I cannot stand seeing 45's ugly face.   In the morning, HGTV goes on.  Or TCM.  Later on you might see the Smithsonian channel or a Cubs game.

It just got to be too much hate.  And that hate breaks everything.  It breaks friendships, it breaks the internets, the system that was already breaking is falling apart worse.  Especially in the land of special needs.  If I need to know, I will see it on Facebook or a blog, or hear it on the radio, and then I will look into it.

Did you know that when a couch breaks, the replacement parts take 4-6 weeks to come?  If you sit on the broken part, your ass will feel broken.

Oh, and my hair is breaking off.  Had my hair did a couple of weeks ago.  I think she fried me.  Aaagh.

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

JaVote?

You know, like Jeet?

I am so happy that they have re-gerrymandered Pennsyltucky.   Now we get to at least have a chance at representation that doesn't live two hours away.  My podunk precinct generally has 17 people come out on primaries.  Today, we can say we had at least 40...when Bug went to vote at 2:30, that's what his number was.  Other precincts around here haven't been as active.  So we'll see.

Oh yeah, this.



And OK, I know, I haven't been here in a while.  I'll make up for it.  I started reading some blogs off my blogggroll, it was so nice to read intelligent thought.  The House of Moi has been going thru some crap over the last 10 months that just stopped the bloggg posting which I will eventually get to. 

Go vote.